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I’ll Go First ’cause I know if you’re here, you don’t love the spotlight!

 

I’m a Dove Award winning songwriter and studio singer here in Nashville, Tennessee. I moved to Nashville 20 years ago with no real plan, actually, but I knew I was supposed to be a professional songwriter.

I showed up in a city waaaaayyyyyyy bigger than Cottageville, West Virginia, and I persisted till I figured it out.

I wrecked my car in the first two months (whew, got that over with—the TRAFFIC!!!), got lost a thousand times in a city where the street names change in the middle of the same street, and I got emotionally beaten to the pulp by the unhappy women in the office at my new day-job.

Oh, and I also got to park at a strip club during the hours I worked with the mean people. Picture it in neon lights:  Nashville’s Most Beautiful Showgirls!

And now picture my glorious green Saturn underneath. Yep.

I worked from 6:45 AM to 3:30 PM, and then I wrote songs. I met with publishers. I sang at songwriter nights. I was determined to see my dream realized, and I was relentless.

And then 18 months later, I had my first artist cut, my first radio single, my first #1 song and my first Dove Award nomination!

Ok, then.

I guess I got my affirmation, right?

But there was always something nagging at me.

Thoughts like, “You’re not good enough,” and, “You’re a fraud,” and, “Who do you think you are?”

Oh, and the BIG one: They’ll never include you if they find out the truth about you.

 

The Truth about Me that I Tried to Hide My Whole Life

 

See, I’m also a disabled woman.

I was born with a congenital birth defect which damaged the nervous system in my left foot. I wore a metal brace built onto my leather shoe till I was in high school. Lots of surgeries and orthotics later, my ankle is fused in walking position, and my foot is 3 sizes smaller than the other.

Most people I meet don’t even realize I have a disability, but that’s because I’ve become a MASTER of disguise.

When you live in a society which forms impressions of you based on how you look, and like it or not we do, sometimes it doesn’t serve us well when we don’t have our thoughts in the right place.

…and that’s where Unhooked Life comes in.

I spent my life hiding. I bent over backward to make sure no one else felt uncomfortable around me.

Heaven forbid anyone stare just a little too long?!

And then one day, I couldn’t take it anymore.

I was so tired of trying to anticipate all the negative things someone might think about me that I decided to something radical which literally change my life.

Seriously, are you ready?????

I decided to stop it.

I decided to STOP trying control what I couldn’t.

I got support, I did the thought work, and I look back on the old me and wonder WHY I didn’t do it sooner.

  • Now, I wear whatever clothes make me feel great rather than ones that just disguise my body.
  • I bet ON myself rather against me. (…yes, I quit the toxic day job.)
  • I even flew to ITALY by myself to attend a women’s retreat with 8 power women I’d never met before!

Essentially, I stopped being scared.

It turns out that there’s a great big world out there, and I have a uniquely ME place in it. And you can rest assured I’m going to fill up my space with all the awesomeness and world-changing I can!

Did it happen overnight? Nope.

Did I do it all alone? No way.

Did I do it? Ummm…have you SEEN that awesome barefoot picture at the top of the page????

And after doing the work, I know now more than ever that how we feel about ourselves affects every other area of our lives—our confidence, our health, our relationships and our success.

So I became a Body Acceptance Mentor, and I spend my days helping other women stop the ICK, too.

 

Your Turn

 

You have your own scars.

They may be visible or invisible, outward or inward, but you have them. (We all do.)

You think your body isn’t right yet. I still need to lose weight before I try that.
You are smart and capable, and it would be fun to try something different. But people will think I’m crazy.
You are sick of hating what you see when you look in the mirror. All of it.

You are tired.

Actually, if you were to get real and admit it, you’re OVER worrying about what other people think of you, too. And you’re definitely finished trying to make everyone else comfortable with your existence.

Wouldn’t it be nice to walk into a room and know beyond any shadow of a doubt that you are enough?

Who would you be if you could finally let the negativity and self-doubt go?

Wait, what if you could actually believe you’re incredibly awesome?

 

Imagine Me & You

 

Yes, I’ve done some extremely cool things in my life. I’m still doing them.

I always wonder, though, what else I could’ve accomplished already if I’d stopped hiding earlier.

I mean, I may have already negotiated world peace had I known how to manage my thoughts when I started!!!!!!

If you recognize yourself in any of this, then I can help you.

You are not too old, too late or too tired.

And you are enough just exactly as you are.

Yes, YOU.

I’ve got you.

All of it, Babe. I’ve got you.

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